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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OLD is inherently focused on superficial qualities, so if you are heavy, people either ignore you or you get attention from people with a fetish. It's an issue for people with any sort of physical characteristics outside of the norm. It is probably best to focus on meeting people more traditional ways, although I'm sure the pandemic has made that very hard, if not impossible. But as the world is starting to return to normal, you might want to think about ways to meet people. Otherwise, good for you losing that weight. Slow and steady is the way to go.[/quote]

Let's not make this an OLD issue. 99% of straight men are not attracted to her. Some people may say its mean but it is the god honest truth. She needs to continue to lose weight to be a bit more "normal" sized". [/quote]

Yes, it's mean, and also ignorant and untrue. I assume from your bigotry that you are "normal" sized (although you probably consider the average size of US women "abnormal") and therefore have no personal experience dating as a fat woman. I do, and realistically I would say it's more like 80% of men who won't be attracted to her because of her weight. That makes it more difficult, certainly, but not impossible. And it's just plain cruel to say that OP can't have a relationship until she gets to a weight someone like you would find acceptable. People who aren't conventionally attractive deserve love too, and most of them find it.

OP, as a very fat woman with OLD experience, I can tell you that you will get a lot of interest if you present yourself well. Have a friend take flattering pictures of you, and make sure they are full body shots so you're not misleading anyone. My rule of thumb is one outdoor pic, one pic of me doing something silly and fun, one mildly "sexy" pic (e.g., wearing a form-fitting dress, showing a little cleavage), and one or two other miscellaneous pics that I like. In my written profile, I aim for genuine above all, but also interesting and funny. The first time I tried OLD I honestly did not think I would get any responses because of my weight, but I ended up being inundated with messages. My problem was that I wasn't discriminating enough. Don't date shitty men just because they're interested in you. Hold out for what you deserve.[/quote]

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