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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FTM here. We had our first baby last summer and are hoping to have at least one more kid, maybe two. I'd love to know when you guys started TTC after your first (and second) kids? Do you wish you'd space them out more / less? We were thinking of TTC this summer, after our baby turns 1... but suddenly that feels like very soon!!

I'm 34 and had fertility issues with kid #1. Part of me would love to have three kids before 40, but I'm trying to be open and flexible with what life brings. [/quote]

We were in a similar boat. I was 35 when I had my first, wanted at least three, maybe even four kids. It took me 7 months to get pregnant the first time, and we were actually in the middle of fertility testing through Shady Grove Fertility when I got pregnant naturally. After that experience, which was very stressful and upsetting (staring down the possibility of infertility) we wanted to get started on #2 right away.

We only prevented pregnancy until he was 4 months old (did NOT want to risk Irish twins) and then we didn't try/didn't prevent for two more months. At 6 months postpartum, with no sign of my period, I weaned to formula for a return to fertility and we started actively trying around 7 months postpartum. Got pregnant in 3 months the second time, much to our shock/relief and our 2nd is 19 months younger than our first.

I feel great about that decision. The first 3-4 months were ROUGH but we're past that now and it's great. And the risk of waiting and not being able to have the family we wanted was just too high, IMHO. You need to weigh that for yourself. While people think fertility drops off after 35, the real precipitous drop is at 37, and I wanted to have a second before then.

We will likely wait a bit before #3 - aim for more like 2.5 years between them rather than 1.5, which would likely mean being 40 when the 3rd is born, but I'm okay with that. Plus, if my fertility runs out (though I feel better about it after this last baby) that would be sad, but not the heartbreak of not being able to have the first two.

I think at this point, we're likely to stop at 3. Probably would have had a fourth if I was younger and we could space them out a bit, but such is life. I met my husband later in life and he's amazing, totally worth the wait. [/quote]

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