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Wow, the crazy is strong with this one, OP!
I can't think of a single reason why you'd seek your mother's validation, opinion, or company, either by phone or in-person.

I suggest you work on finding happiness without feeling the need to connect with your mother. The silent treatment is a blessing in disguise, since it prevents regular occurrences of conversing with Crazy!

Just go no-contact, OK? For a while. Don't pursue. Let her contact you,and when she does, evince no interest whatsoever. Don't share about your life. Everything is going well. Yes, how are you? Oh good. Look, I need to go now, have a nice day. And then, wait for her to call you again. You don't want this person in your life unless at arm's length.

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Me again. My mother annoys me by being unhappy and critical about happy decisions I've made in my life, such as every single one of my pregnancies, buying a house and getting pets. There is never silent treatment, because she has to tell me, repeatedly and pointedly, how worried she is about my health, giving birth, how I don't have money for children (we have 5M in assets), how we'll be frazzled if we add pets to a household with TWO children (she only had one child, no pets, and found her life over whelming), and how my house is too small and we need a bigger house (didn't she just say I was too poor?). She cannot accept that anyone might be happy living a life that's not similar to hers. Which is weird, because she doesn't seem that happy to live her own life either!

For my mother, it comes from a distorted place of anxious love and inability to put herself in other people's shoes. But the treatment is the same. I do not share. We had a puppy for more than a year before we told her. I'm about to miscarry and will not tell her about it, because she will freak out and be mad at me for getting pregnant, mad at my husband for getting me pregnant, etc... These people are crazy, and we need to hold them at arms' length and get our emotional support from our friends., or other relatives.
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