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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry you have a mother like this, OP.  Without knowing much about how your mother typically operates, I don't have much for advice, but here are some ideas:

1.  Don't contact her for a week, and then text her asking how she's doing.  No answer?  Rinse and repeat.
2.  Text her and tell her to let you know when she's ready to resume your relationship.
3.  Starting sending a couple of pictures a week of your new, adorable dog.

Is she usually this childish?  Doe she get jealous of your life and activities?

She's being mean/borderline abusive to you, OP.  Do did NOT do anything wrong and shouldn't feel sad or anxious.  Hurt, maybe, but this is all on her and has nothing to do with you.[/quote]

OP Here.

To answer a previous PP, I know it's about the dog because all contact stopped as soon as I told her we had adopted a dog.

To answer this PP, she is a little immature. Mostly often it shows up as being a little out of touch with reality. An example would be, When I got divorced, she was angry that we went with 50/50 custody. She refused to listen when I told her that modern local courts prefer 50/50 unless there is something egregious and that fighting for full custody would be prohibitively expensive, and likely unsuccessful (this was directly from my lawyer). She accused me of not caring about my child, and being a bad mother for choosing to settle for 50/50. I got the silent treatment for that as well.

Another example: her sister, who is a doctor, has a friend whose neighbor is an addict. My mom is convinced that this could cost my aunt her medical license. My aunt doesn't interact with this person. It's just a friend's neighbor. She doesn't think my aunt should be friends with this person anymore, and told her she was stupid to risk her medical license. (Also, even if this was true, my aunt is retired, so she doesn't even really need a license anymore, but she occasionally does some volunteer/pro bono type work.)

My mom has probably been this way her whole life but I didn't really start noticing until I was in my 30s.[/quote]

So very controlling?  Without good boundaries on when she is intruding on the life decisions of someone else?  We don't do silent treatment, but my FOO is like this too.  Think they should have say in the other person's life and get very upset when their views are disregarded.[/quote]

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