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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD told me in confidence that she thinks she is bisexual. She is 15 and not sexually active , but she says she seems to be attracted to both boys and girls. I come from a culture where we weren't even exposed to gay/lesbian and I am not sure what to make of this? How can a kid know they are bisexual ? Does it mean she wants to experiment with both genders before she decides? 
I played it cool in front of her and ask her to not rush into an "identity box" yet. But she says kids ask about each others sexual identity now in school and she want to tell she is bisexual.
I am not sure how to take this. Please advise without being mean, I would like to hear especially from other parents experience if they have a bisexual kid... as I said it is very new and I promised my DD not to share this even with her Dad yet. 
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It is most important to protect her feelings of safety in communicating honestly with you.

My DD who is also not sexually active claimed the same thing a couple of years back. I told her we would love her and support whatever her sexual orientation but that she was too young to be putting labels on herself.

There is a lot of pressure on tweens and young teens to declare themselves gay/bi/pan on social media and to act on alleged body dysphoria by prematurely changing gender. Again we told her we would accept her if she decided to go down that path eventually as an adult  but we would not support any irreversible changes before she is an adult and not yet finished growing (hormones, surgery etc).

She now thinks that she is most likely straight but we are close partly because she knows that we unconditionally accept and love her and that she can be real with us.

Our faith community Is welcoming of everyone on the GTLBQ spectrum so that helped too - to have community support for however she identified as she matures.

Honestly, we care much more that she stays on a good path education wise (working hard at school - getting work done on time to best of her ability) and health wise (avoiding drugs and drink) than what her sexual orientation ends up being.[/quote]

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