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[quote=Anonymous]Queer woman and mom here: I would not be happy about this. Such a huge age gap at those ages and what kind of 27-year-old dates a high school student?! When I was a first-year in grad school I dated a first-year college student and that felt like a big gap (and didn't last). That said, it's so challenging when you disapprove of a relationship. You don't want your daughter to double down just because you say no. I guess I would want to meet the woman just to understand who I was dealing with.

Assuming the older woman seems just immature but not dangerous, I guess I would just tell my kid all the rules we have are still in force while she is in high school and living in my home, ask her opened-ended questions about what her friends think of this situation, encourage her to be future thinking about college, etc., keep having all the conversations we have been having for years about healthy relationships, red flags, how to get out of uncomfortable situations, and consent. Chances are one or both of them will get tired of the weirdness of the situation and limitations on their relationship.

If the older woman seemed like bad news, honestly, I would gather all my old d*ke friends and we would go to her place and have a conversation about how the relationship couldn't continue. But I wouldn't do that unless I thought it was a dangerous situation for my kid.[/quote]

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