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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just here to say I wish schools only looked at 11th and 12th for gpa. It’s insane to expect consistent perfection, ambition, and long-term planning from kids from 14/15 -17/18 without intense parental control. Wonder why helicopter parents became a thing? I don’t. [b]Colleges reward premature frontal lobe development and controlling parenting (even parents doing some of the kids work)[/b][/quote]

Correct.  I have current 9th grade b/g twins.  My daughter is 100% self-motivated and is cranking out 3 hours of homework a night and A's in a top private school where As are rare. My son? Well, let's just say he has a fraction of his sister's motivation.  I have no doubt it will kick in at some point.  It did for his father and my brother.  Both ended up being extremely successful but were somewhat of an unmotivated mess at 14/15.

In the meantime, i'm spending 2 hours a night prodding my son.  Doing some of the work.  Etc. etc.  His friends have (often full time) tutors and parents who are also spending hours prodding.  It's not that the boys can't do the work, it's that they don't have the drive to do it. Yes, there are a few self-motivated boys.  For sure. 
But many other bright ones who simply haven't come into their own yet.

College really should throw out freshman year grades.  I honestly don't think they are representative of much for many kids (far more representative of their [b]parents[/b]) . [/quote]

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