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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What kinds of questions do you need answered.  Post here and I'm sure a lot of people would be happy to answer (myself included).  hang in there.  It will be ok.[/quote]

My soon to be ex and I have a schedule worked out for our toddler. We both agreed to it. It's designed to minimize transitions (DS finds it stressful to have different bedtime routines, etc.) and to try to maintain the structure of the week (e.g. every Sunday Monday and Tuesday nights are daddy's nights; every Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday are mommy's nights) because he knows his days of the week. My soon to be ex constantly wants "trades." As in "I have to be in Timbuktu on Tuesday night and want to trade a night with you" and "I want to see a friend and can't pick up our son on Sunday night so you can have him, but I want a compensatory day." My attorney has told me to be flexible, and I have tried to be flexible, but isn't this a bit excessive? We're talking about a conflict arising for my husband probably once every other week. Also, I have a demanding work schedule and book a lot of meetings on the days I don't have our son so that I can spend more time with him on the days I do have him.

Here's another gray area: My soon-to-be-ex travels frequently with our son. Every week he has trips planned, to different places. I feel it's pretty disruptive on our son, who has expressed interest in potty training and who gets really cranky when his sleep schedule is off. My attorney says that short of illegal activity, my husband is allowed to do what he'd like with our son and that I should not try to interfer with this, I will look bad.

There are a lot of things that aren't "legal," but that are very disruptive and problematic. I just don't know how to help sort out the best answer for my son and for me....
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