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[quote=Anonymous]OP I so get it. Truly I do. I have a sister who makes horrible decision after horrible decision. She gets my 80 year old mom caught up in her dramas and then my mother calls me hysterical and yells at me for setting boundaries and not for trying to join rescue efforts. I made myself pretty ill when I let myself get sucked in too all their craziness. My health improved when I learned to detach.

My mom is very codependent with my sister. That is her choice. I used to want to protect her, but I had to learn it is not my place to tell a grownup who is of sound mind what to do. She does not have dementia. My sister has a high IQ and no common sense, but she gets to make her decisions and deal with the consequences even if she deals by getting mom all crazy. My sister's kids know I love them. They have fathers who love them (but hate my sister). They have suffered a lot from her choices, but I hope in some way we provide a buffer by just being safe people for them.

It's very hard to watch a trainwreck and know it was preventable. If your mom chooses to literally die for your sister that is her choice and you have to respect it. You cannot control her.[/quote]

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