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[quote=Anonymous]My sister and BIL have 2 healthy girls. During my sister’s last pregnancy (with her 2nd) she had a number of serious health issues/complications which led to the baby being delivered at 32 weeks. It was very stressful for all, the baby spent 2 months in the NICU, it was really hard for their older DD and my parents had to step in to help for a few months which took a toll on them (in late 70s not in great health).

My sister was told that she should never get pregnant again because it could have catastrophic health consequences for her and a baby given what happened this last time (the same issues were guaranteed and would likely be worse). My sister was more than content to stop at 2 kids, but BIL really wanted a son and kept pushing my sister, who agreed to try one last time going against all medical advice. Fast forward, she is pregnant and was admitted to the hospital a couple days ago at 23 weeks, and will have to stay there for the remainder of her pregnancy. They want to get her to 36 weeks. When my sister delivers she will need a complex surgery (including a complete hysterectomy) and they can see the baby may have some issues as well.

They are now asking my parents to go stay at their house for the next few months to care for their kids since BIL needs to work (and is fairly useless with the kids anyway) and my sister is in the hospital. My parents live 2 hours from them and my mom is currently undergoing chemo, so now is not the time to uproot them and make them have to care for two young kids. My mom needs to take care of herself and not have to worry about this in top of it. Of course they had no other contingency plan - like hiring a nanny or something - which they say they don’t want to do because it will be too hard for the girls. I live in another state and offered to have the girls come here for a bit, but they don’t want to pull them out of school for the remainder of the year so that’s that.

I feel truly horrible to them and want to help, but at the same time am so angry they put themselves and their children in this position. They really thought everything would just be fine??[/quote]

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