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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have kids? If so, I think you have a good case for not going and visiting during the day.

If not, what's the big deal? You can spend one night to make FIL feel better. [b]Though, I would ask FIL directly if he wants the help. Maybe he doesn't and MIL is forcing it on him. Just a thought.[/b] [/quote]

The DH has to do any asking, not OP. Her DH's parents are his to handle and if he can't even ask his dad a simple question, well, I agree then with the PP above who said the DH might want his wife there as a buffer against awkwardness between DH and his dad.

To the OP, tell DH to talk to his dad, see what his dad wants, and go if he likes. The bigger issue is not going to see or stay with dad. The reai issue is that you say DH is "offended" that you won't come. What's that really about?

Tell DH it's a terrific opportunity for him to spend guy time with his dad or however you want to phrase it. Hooray, wonderful, you and your dad get one on one time, no MIL there, no DW there! And so on. Don't cave on spending the night but ask DH why he believes this is offense-worthy. It isn't (unless you're being cranky about it, or criticizing MIL and DH feels that's unfair--? Not saying you are doing that, just noting that it's worth stepping back and thinking if maybe that's what he's interpreting--?)

Also: DH needs to talk to his mom. Does she want someone there because she's just being overprotective and FIL is a bit of a man-child and won't "do things right" like she wants them done, while she's gone?

OR is your MIL possibly not telling DH and you that she has a [i]real[/i] concern, like she's seen FIL getting confused or unsteady, and she's worried about leaving him, for example, alone in the house with the gas stove....?? There might be no issue here, or there might be something MIL is not wanting to say out loud. [/quote]

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