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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are new parents and he is very involved. I thought this was normal but I had dinner with friends over the weekend for the first time since we had our son and they were all shocked when I talked about how things were going and how we were adjusting to being parents. Some had more involved partners but they all were surprised how involved he is. They said I should be lucky I chose a husband who is involved. I’m so grateful that I have a wonderful husband who loves being a father, but I’m surprised that more men aren’t actively involved in their kids lives, at least my friends husbands. How involved is your husband?

Sorry if this is the wrong category. I wasn’t sure if I should post here or in the parenting forum. [/quote]

Are you able to give a few examples so we can calibrate this involvement versus others’?

And how many months has it been? [/quote]

Most men are involved parents. There isn't a huge amount of "parenting" a newborn. It is true that some men have a learning curve and adjustment and are far more involved later. This does not make them uninvolved parents. Its also a decision and a relationship style. I can't stand my coworkers who say "we" are pregnant and are really intense re sleep, feeding with newborns and then act like the kid doesn't exist for years. That is also a thing.[/quote]

Your comment about the "we" men (heh) reminds me of some of the dads in our childbirth class when I was pregnant. There were two dads who were extremely intense and almost... competitive about being knowledgeable about pregnancy and childbirth. It was exhausting. One guy in particular was constantly pontificating about how HIS wife was going to EBF and HIS wife would never have medication during birth.

My DH was totally clueless about childbirth and breastfeeding, but he did instinctively rub my back whenever that guy was talking because he knew I was hopped up on pregnancy hormones and might let lose on the class if I had to listen to one more soliloquy from that dude about about why drinking caffeine during pregnancy was basically the same as snorting cocaine. I'll stick with the one I got.[/quote]

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