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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not. 2 healthy kids is great!

Your DH would be nearly 50 with newborn. And 72 by time you gets got out of college. That’s tough[/quote]

This, above. Enjoy the healthy kids you have now. It's a complete family and then some.

PP is right about you and DH being in early 70s when the last child leaves college and you would be around 65-- that's IF you got pregnant immediately at 43, OP. You and DH will, to be blunt, get much less time together as empty nester couple and a retired couple.

OP, you say you already feel that you're splitting time between the two kids you have and a third would add stress. Throw yourself into your two kids' lives and enjoy, rather than adding a third child. Also, you can be at least somewhat involved in two kids' extracurricular activities and involved at their schools if you and DH both volunteer etec. -- but if you add a new baby you are honestly never going to be able to get very involved in your kids' activities. Being able to volunteer at school and activities can be a huge joy, fun for you as an adult, a way to get to know other families, and it models for kids that their parents believe in volunteering and participation. If you're inclined that way, well, you won't ever get much opportunity if you're juggling three kids.

And then there's college tuition....I know people don't like to talk financials when talking about "should I have another child," but it's a real-world issue. Tuitions, plus if your third child had special needs (since risks increase with maternal age), that's another consideration for the impact on your two already very much existing kids. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's a consideration. [/quote]

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