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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean you "don't get involved"?

Do you mean you're not interested in meeting her, hearing about her or being pleasant?

Or do you mean you "don't get involved" until there's a ring...as in you would start butting in, meddling, offering an unsolicited opinion, inserting yourself, etc., when there's a ring? [/quote]

By, "don't get involved", i mean influencing the choice, dating process, timeline. I would like him be free to make his decisions at his pace, not let my opinions and experiences sway his relationships.[/quote]

OK, so, if you're not getting involved (GOOD!) pre=ring, what do you see changing when there is a ring?  Would you start being more involved and what would that be?  (because ifit's anything like the examples you are on the road to bad MIL).

I was going to initially say just be a decent human being who is pleasant, non judgmental, and welcoming to people she meets, including anyone your son choses to introduce.  I think that's still the case, but I'd maybe add or clarify welcoming to mean being interested in who she is as a person.  Maybe you don't want to invest in anyone who comes along, which is fine, and just being generally polite is fine.  Then, once things become more serious, you work harder at getting to know potential DIL as a person.  [/quote]

It means I would wholeheartedly accept whoever he loves.[/quote]

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