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[quote=Anonymous]Disable the car (and make sure she doesn't have something like AAA). Then when she wants to drive, don't argue with her. Let her go out to the car and discover it's not working.

Does she have any memory issues? If she does, it works to your advantage. Use therapeutic lying-- you'll get the car towed to be fixed (whoops they are so backed up they cant get to it for a few weeks), or the part has been ordered (whoops, because of the pandemic having trouble getting the part) or tell her that going out in public is really dangerous because of covid. Keep doing this on repeat.

My Mom has dementia and hasn't driven in 1.5 years (my Dad is able to drive her). And she still thinks she can drive. When my Dad needed someone to drive him to a doctor's appt, she was mad that I was doing it because "as his wife" she should be doing it. I didn't fight her. I just told her okay, you can drive him. Then on the day of the appointment, I just came and picked him up.

The key is to find ways not to argue. You will never win the argument. The only thing you'll do is cause more agitation.

Good Luck!
PS- make sure  you have POA in place! It's nightmare once dementia happens. And keep an eye on her bank accounts. This is the stage that elderly start to spend uncontrollably or people take advantage of them and start stealing. [/quote]

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