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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a different perspective.  I worked FT (at a DC law firm) until DD was almost 2.  I stayed home from 2-3, doing a little contract work part time while she was in a PT pre-school program.  As much fun as we have had spending this time together, I'm actually looking to go back to work.  I'll be honest - I love it, but being a FT mom to a toddler is HARD.  And I don't think I'm particularly good at it.  I think I'm a great part-time mommy to a toddler, but I just don't have the strength and patience to do it well full-time.  In my mind, it is more important to be home when my kids are older.  My mother worked, and the mothers of my friends all stayed home and that dynamic clearly affected my relationship with my mother.  She didn't attend all my sports activities, couldn't volunteer for school field trips or other things, she wasn't home when we got home from school and coincidentally didn't know much about my social life.  To be fair, my mother-daughter dymanic has a lot to do with my mom's personality and not just her work schedule.  For my family, we've decided that while it would be lovely to stay home when the kid(s) are little because it's a precious time and yes, they change practically overnight, I would prefer to be home with them later on when it is more important, and more difficult, to maintain a presence in their lives.  I want to chat with my little girl over after-school snack and to hear about what her friends are doing.  I want to know her friends and their parents.  I want to volunteer at her school.  I want to be home when she gets off the bus and when she does her homework.  I want to be home when she goes through that horrible middle school period when little girls are just mean to each other.  I want to know when she has her first crush.  She won't really remember all the painting and trips to the park we did this year, but she will remember that I was home to raise her when she's older.   [/quote]

But- it is not necessary to quit completely and SAH full-time to do all of the things you mention.  I wah 7-3:30 and I am there for all of the after school stuff.  I think some women are afraid to say the are just plain burned out and want an early retirement.  It is easier to say 'I'm doing it to be with my kids' and then turn into a wohm-basher like a great majority out there.[/quote]

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