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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know many people will think I'm crazy.
We already have 3 kids 4 years old and younger (less than 2 years apart).
We've been talking about when to make our final decision on having no more kids - we'll do vasectomy.
We are one of those couples that would have 6 kids if we could! 
But, we have limited resources/support (not to mention the planet's limited resources!).

For those of you with 4 kids, how did you decide to have a 4th?
What we talked about today is me prioritizing my health, getting back in shape (I just turned 33, I'm 5 months postpartum, BFing, and need to lose about 30 lbs), and making a decision in about a year. I wouldn't want to wait much longer than that - it's been my dream to be done having kids by 35!

We're not rich, we're two feds, don't own a home, but we have lots of love, and come from humble origins and large families ourselves.

We seem to have a very different mindset than a lot of people. Like, we keep remarking how siblings are the best gifts we gave our kids because they all play together, even with the 5 month old! They are happiest together and such a joy!

Tell me if you have felt similar things and decided to have a 4th...[/quote]

Np I don't have four and never ever would want four but, I have a question.  What is the reason you want four children?  I can't imagine looking at your five month old and looking to add to the family rather than just stop and enjoy the baby you have.  Before you go ahead and have the fourth I would ask more questions of yourself.  You mention limited resources/support but, you didn't mention time.  Do you think you can give each child the time they need?  If you kids were spread out more than you probably could give more time to each.  I don't know why you are stuck at finishing by 35.  Your focus should be the physical, mental health/needs of every member of your family.  Don't just add a child because you see yourself as a "mother to four"  You have no idea what your kids will need and if I were you I would wait until the youngest is 2 or so.  When people mention no family support I don't understand because they are your kids and your choice.  Why would you expect free help for your choice?

Siblings are great but, they need attention and love from their parents most of all.  If you are both working than time is going to be limited.  Just think before you decide to do this.  Just my perspective and you are free to ignore.[/quote]

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