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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you both. This is OP. DD is very private about everything so she never brings any issue up with us, and definitely not concerning friends. So we would either do as the first PP said and not do anything, or have to bring it up ourselves. [/quote]

It's a transactional friendship. They exist in school, college and later life. It's unfortunate but if you're DD is comfortable with that, being on the giving only end, then I would leave her to it if she's in 10th grade now.

But I would make 100% sure that she cannot be accused of actual cheating in any tests or any formal way. That would be devastating for her academically in terms of her future.[/quote]

I like this advice.

My DD (9th grade) was in a similar situation where a friend in school was constantly reaching out to her for homework help.  And by "help", it meant answers.  DD eventually grew frustrated by the frequency and being used by her friend, and on her own decided to handle it by ignoring the texts.  Or replying to them late saying, "oh sorry I didn't see this last night."  Finally her friend gave up.

My DD is also similar in that she doesn't have a side net of friends, so it is tough to think one may "dump" her when she's not helping with homework.  But I would leave it up to DD to decide and as PP said, be sure she's not violating an honor code (my DD is in a private HS with a strict one) or getting in trouble somehow.[/quote]

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