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[quote=Anonymous]Oh damn, OP. I’m so sorry. You really need to be there for your son. This is a tough needle to thread.

I would invest my energy in some focused paraphrasing with your spouse. These are some things to consider having ready to say when you talk about it:

“So you’re saying our son’s feelings should be dismissed?”

“Your feeling is that if I don’t push our son to stay at Emory when he’s expressed legitimate reasons for leaving, I don’t support you. Is that correct?”

“I’m wondering why you’re not seeing this as a good thing that our son is mature enough to articulate what he needs. It appears as if you’re seeing it as a rejection of your experience at Emory. Why can’t you both have really good college experiences at two different schools?”

“You want the very best for him and are struggling to see how he can get a better experience at a different school. You had such an amazing experience at Emory and want him to have that. It makes perfect sense that you want that for him. I’m just wondering if there isn’t room for him to have just as an amazing experience at Tufts.”

“If we push Larlo to dismiss his feelings and just suck it up, I wonder if that will help our relationship with him or hurt it. When someone has dismissed how you felt, did that bring you closer to them or push you away?” 
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