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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Uhhh… depends on if you consider misogyny a minor blip that people grow out of?

Good luck with that.[/quote]

Op again? You don't think people can change? The post was 20 years old and at that time he was 23. I guess I just think we're all pretty dumb in our early 30s and we grow up hopefully. I would be a no brainer red flag had he been in his 30s at the time. I'm honestly not sure do I'm asking.[/quote]

Dealbreaker for me, hon, but you live your life the way you see fit.

If you are in your 30s he was born in an era well after the inferiority of women was disproved. So no, I would think you can do better.[/quote]

Not OP, but you don't know many idiot early-20s guys, or rather, many men who once were idiot early-20s guys 20 years ago, do you?

Before you go ballistic: I'm not defending those posts but to be honest I also would have to see the actual posts. And hear his explanation. I would not automatically do a knee-jerk "dump him now" without questioning him.

OP, just ASK. Tell him you looked at his old posts and ask him about it. Don't be accusatory but be neutral when you ask the initial question: "What was up with that? I see you as a pretty old-fashioned guy and those posts aren't old-school polite. What was going on with you at that point?" and see what he says and how he reacts. Bring up specific ones that troubled you.

I would also wonder why, if he's more enlightened now, he has not bothered to take those posts down. It's possible to remove old posts from your feeds and anyone who has that kind of stuff in their social media should know to go through and weed it out if they actually care about having said it. Though maybe someone else linked to them and that's what OP is seeing. Well? OP?

The posts without any context are something strangers on the internet can't really interpret for you, OP. What has he posted about since then? Does he do things that indicate he is, as you say, "enlightened" like put his actions where his mouth is, and support women in specific ways now? What's the context? Who was he 20 years ago and how has he changed? That all comes from conversations with him. You  won't find his answers here on DCUM.[/quote]

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