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[quote=Anonymous]Your discomfort has a source. You should go to therapy to figure it out. But, armchair psychiatrist here, I think you have guilt issues around your wealth and you are likely afraid to discuss it because you don't want to be revealed as undeserving. You may also have come to over identify with both your wealth and the professional success that brought it, as evidence of your "goodness". This might make you feel protective of it and fearful of losing it, because if you lost your wealth you would no longer be "good". Again, just speculating, but these are unhealthy attitudes about money and could be causing your discomfort.

To me the give-away is how you introduce this topic in your post. You begin by explaining your wealth is earned. This is an important entry point for you. Why? Some people earn wealth, some inherit it. We live in a world where truly self-made people are very rare, and here you acknowledge that you grew up fairly well off and your parents paid for your education, two things that make it much more likely you will accumulate wealth. It's common for rich people to really fixate on this question of whether or not they "deserve" their wealth, and people who continue to believe being very wealthy is something you can deserve will continue to have extreme discomfort around the subject.

You need to learn that wealth is just wealth. It's not evident of goodness anymore than poverty is evidence of badness (you don't think poverty is evidence of being a bad person, do you?). Whether it comes from your own work or you inherit it, at a certain level it becomes a job in and of itself, something to manage and deal with. If you don't like that job, you can always get rid of it -- there are lots of ways to get rid of money. You are not required to lead a certain kind of life because of your wealth or be a certain kind of person.

It's just money.[/quote]

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