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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What more support for parents do you want? If you don’t like your work benefits change jobs. You could also move if you want better childcare/school/etc (I did). Make a bigger effort to find a community - lots of people don’t live near family. You have a lot of options it just sounds like you want to complain about your relatively good situation. Confused about your post. [/quote]

I don’t think just moving will solve the childcare issues or the issues facing parents. Having actual parental paid leave like basically every other developed country for one thing, greater support nad protection for mothers who are pumping/breastfeeding their babies, better postpartum care for mothers…many countries mothers deliver and they are provided meals for weeks, huge amounts of support and mothers in the Us literally leave the hospital and are cooking dinner for their families.

Now, I wouldn’t be making meals for myself and I’m better at advocating for my own needs postpartum so if coworkers/friends asked how to support me, I would openly say meals or gift card for a house cleaner, something lien that.

I think there’s a total lack of support for families in this country and most employers are NOT supportive. My position is MUCH more flexible now but still within the restraints of the American system.

Another thing is sick time or expectations to not take off for kids appointments/schedule it only during off items which is impossible with pediatric offices and the number of appointments needed early on. Moms start back at work with zero leave but need to take leave for appointments and are shamed for taking leave for appointments because “didn’t you have off long enough? Show some commitment to work”…I’ve seen this attitude all too often.

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Oh and childcare…if parents got a year off or closer to it, that would save an incredible amount of money because the first year or two are always the most expensive. Then if preschool was covered like the rest of public school then that would take an extra 2 years off of parents! That is huge! That’s 3 years of incredibly expensive childcare basically taken off parents so all you’d need to arrange is backup care or some summer care….

It’s this lack of support that I’m talking about. I’m not speaking as much to my own family support, I’ve found ways around that.[/quote]

You sound like a communist. Even Europe doesn’t offer anything remotely close to what you want the government to provide. It also seems like you’re advocating for companies to just stop hiring moms. Most companies are not Amazon - how the heck do you expect them to operate with their workforce gone 24/7 and still getting paid? We’ve also stopped believing “women” are a thing in this country- so the minute you offer benefits to women you have to offer them to men. Do you not see that this is a horrible horrible policy idea? My god you’re dumb. The government is not your savior. Sheesh. [/quote]

Oh and to use the Left’s mantra on vaccine mandates: you’re not entitled to a job. If you don’t want to comply with your company’s policies, find a different one! Easy peasy. [/quote]

WTF?! I'm not a communist.  Um no, most of the world offers a significant amount of paid parental leave that parents can split.  Parents often receive better postpartum care in other countries with extra follow-up visits postpartum and overall better care that has better outcomes for mothers and babies.  The poor care that mothers receive in the US compared to other developed countries is very well documented.  Many countries also offer preschool to all children, this isn't a radical idea. Move the f. on. [/quote]

Don’t let that person get to you. Yes, moms do not get enough support in this country,  but that will not change, so it’s best not to dwell.

I think if you are healthy and you can financially support a third, you should go for it. I think you are looking at the obstacles instead of focusing on the possibilities. If you really want a third, you may always look back in regret if you don’t at least give it a try. You only get one shot at life, and life is short. Live it up. Do what makes you happy. You will figure the rest out just like you did the other two times. If you need to move, you will do it. If you need to make more friends, you can do that. Nothing is easy but when you really want something, it’s worth giving it your all![/quote]

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