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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you need to shift your focus. I doubt you were as smoking hot as you imagine your were and I doubt your husband is this shallow. You sound ridiculous. Sorry but come on. Calm down. I weighed 120 when I met my husband and I look really good at 140. If that’s you, you’re fine, think about something else and move along. [/quote]
There's probably a combination of things here:

1. OP is hyper aware of her weight and physical attractiveness, so she's probably hyper aware that she looks different post baby as most of us do
2. OP said her DH is very visual, and I believe her. If he was always telling OP how hot she was but now no longer tells her this, all the while checking out other women who OP used to look like, then I would probably think the same thing, especially since #1.

But OP knows her DH best. Does he seem like the kind of person who could cheat?  Do you think he loves you unconditionally?

IMO, OP, I think you need to learn to love yourself as is.  IF your DH no longer finds you attractive, then he is not worthy of you.

I'm a lot older than you (I have teens), and I was always very slim/petite.  FF two babies + csection, I have the dreaded  mother's apron and a squishy belly. BUT DH always tells me how he loves my body because it produced two kids for him and it's a part of me.  He rubs my squishy belly in bed, and I hate it when he does that, but he says he loves that part of me because of what it went through. He goes out of his way to make me feel beautiful.

If your DH is not doing that, then IMO, he's selfish and shallow.  Every DH should make their wives feel loved and beautiful.

But, you need to work on your mental health. Love yourself first. if he cheats or leaves you, then you need to be strong.   I used to have very low self confidence in my appearance even though I have been told that I was pretty.  when I look at pictures of my old self, I see that I was pretty.. what the heck was I so insecure about.  I wasted so much time/energy on feeling down on my looks.

Whatever happens, you have to learn to love yourself and be strong, especially since you now have a child.  Do what you need to do to feel good about yourself. Don't worry about what your DH might do or how he feels about your body.  Do it for you, and your baby.[/quote]

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