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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Today's issue: He says I am a horrible communicator. That I complain about things he does/doesnt do, but then don't follow up or give specifics on how to further address the issue. His words: if you want to adjust something with finances, say something. If you want to adjust something re division of labor, suggest it..."
I suggested we sit down this weekend at a specific time, that I will take the weekend to come up with specific details, answers, proposals etc to the issues we have identified. I asked if tomorrow at 8pm works for him for our talk:

his reply:  Maybe. I don’t have anything to talk about until you put more effort into responding.

uhhhhhh okie dokie. The person complaining about my inability to communicate well (to his standards/liking)  and asking me to follow through....is responding by being passive aggressive and not following through. Cool.[/quote]

Then go to therapy to learn how to communicate w each other. [/quote]

Get out a pad of paper and make a list and give it to him.  One list is problems/issues you have and for each, what he can do to make it better. [/quote]

If nothing else, this will make you feel better. Sitting on these complaints is corrosive. Make the list comprehensive and give it to him in advance of the convo. Maybe he’ll see that the issues are so many and so serious that the relationship is not sustainable. [/quote]

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