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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Mom is definitely similar-she was always that way but as she's gotten older it's gotten worse. And my grandmother did the same thing. It's unfortunate. [b]The verbal stabbings completely overshadow what was a pleasant visit. And then I end up dwelling on what she says and feel crappy for awhile afterwards[/b]. [/quote]

Yes! So this! (OP here). I will comment on another post about armor, I have gotten better at recovering with therapy, but[b] the initial stabbing still jolts me when not expected.[/b][/quote]

Lower you expectations.  Expect it will happen.   Be realistic, you can't change her, you can only change your actions & reaction. [/quote]

OP here. Yes, this! I do lower expectations, it's just now and then when she "behaves" I make the same mistake over and over of getting briefly sucked in. I have read such helpful books and I can step back an analyze my mistakes. I would give this same advice to anyone. I am like Charlie Brown falling for Lucy with the football trick. The thing is, it's not like I had her move in. I just for a moment thought maybe she was decent and I could enjoy myself and I felt SAFE and then the verbal knife came out.[/quote]

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