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[quote=Anonymous]I always see daddy girls that demonize mommy who was the betrayed one.

I get it.  I was extremely close to my dad.  He coached teams and I even later worked with him post-college (went into the same profession).  My sister was closer to my mom.  My dad and I were so much alike.

My parents had a wonderfully happy 52-year marriage before he died with no cheating that I or anyone else is aware of and, given his character and obvious love for my mother I can’t see it.

That said, if I was like these women I would have a hard time demonizing him and probably would try to justify the man I worshiped like all these daughters are doing.  They blame their mom, but kids really have no idea what mom has kept hidden from them and endured in the marriage.  They might see her acting a certain way but they most likely have no idea what he has done that they don’t know about and hence mom’s disdain or resultant behavior.

After being the victim of an affair in a 20+ year marriage with kids…it is absolutely gut wrenching.  It is traumatic and changes you.  I no longer care what the circumstances are—-cheaters create so much pain and trauma—I think it is such a display of bad character and zero integrity.  It might be it’s the way they’re were raised that they do this—but get some help.  [/quote]

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