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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm here visiting from the General Parenting Forum, where people are complaining about their spouses not doing their share of housework or childcare or errand running/organizing or what have you. My DH meanwhile was out shoveling yesterday with two small kids "helping" him, and that's after he made lunch and dinner and started the dishwasher. This is just a normal day for us, and I stayed back to deal with Christmas cleanup, laundry etc. Neither of us need any congratulations but it seems our situation is not the norm.

You may be busy thinking about how your partner measures up in terms of looks or some kind of status but all that will fade in importance when life gets busy and you realize where your priorities Really are. So think about what your partner does now, how much s/he pitches in, how much s/he thinks about you both as a team vs two competing individuals and you'll have a much more useful lens into the future.

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So what do you suggest if you don’t see your spouse helping in your future?[/quote]

Think long and hard whether you would really be OK. If you want kids, will you be resentful raising them mostly by yourself? Cleaning house (even if you pay for cleaners, you still have to clean up after yourself daily)? Errands? Can your spouse meet you half way when negotiating on major life decisions? [/quote]

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