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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand why it is important to you that she know that you already know the thing she is trying to tell you. Does it matter? I know I sound snarky, but I’m being sincere. So what if you already know it’s going to snow and she says, you probably don’t know this, but it’s supposed to snow tomorrow. Can you just say thanks for letting me know, and move on?
My guess is that she is feeling loss of control and/or loss of being needed or important and trying to get that back through these annoying conversations. I would focus on just letting her feel superior or knowledgeable; consider it a gift to her.[/quote]

I think you have experience with more well adjusted people. With this type of person the behavior just increases exponentially with every "thanks for letting me know" and they will start calling and texting more and telling you more "news" and giving more "advice" because clearly you appreciate it. If you do the opposite and politely say, no need to share I already know, they are indignant and the anger escalates. The only way I have found to keep this sort of behavior in check is to just not give reinforcement through emotion or words. You just can't engage too much.

I also think it's good to empathize with people to a point, but when you deal with crazy-making behavior it can turn into gaslighting. There are some people where you need to let go of always feeling sorry for them and enabling.[/quote]

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