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[quote=Anonymous]My only advice is to do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself as much as you can during this phase.  If you don’t take care of yourself because you are exhausted, he isn’t going to feel sorry for you.  He is only going to think you are weak.  If he is angry with you for leaving him with the kids after working a 12 hour day so that you can rest or exercise or call your mom, then so be it.  He’s already angry with you anyway.

Most men would see that you have a lot on your plate and would step up at home.  I know many men who are parents of young kids, work 60+ hours/wk, and still manage to support their wives and pull their weight a team home.  Your husband is not only not stepping up, he is resentful of the kids taking your time from him and is asking for more from you.  That says to me that he is willfully closing his eyes to what’s going on with you because it makes him feel bad.  Your marriage might get better as the kids get older, but he is never going to see and acknowledge how hard this is for you.

Take care of yourself.  Reach out to friends for support.  Take a step back from your husband’s criticisms of you and see if they really make sense before you twist yourself in knots trying to please him.  [/quote]

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