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[quote=Anonymous]I've been there, op. It's hard. But I think it's okay for kids to understand that they aren't always going to get what is promised or expected in the moment. It happens all the time in real life. If they can't handle it when mom accidentally forgets, how are they going to handle it when a play date's mom does it? A teacher? A coach? I'm not saying you should do this on purpose, but if it doesn't happen often; you need to admit it, explain it, and move on. Also you can model the non -whining voice.

In a sympathetic but firm voice:
"I promised you the mud pie. It's now too late for the mud pie,  I am sorry but we have to go." Kid whines and fusses. "You can be sad. I am upset too because I love mud pie, but right now we have to go. If you are calm about it and ask if we can have it when we are back from X then we can, but if you whine or cry we will have it tomorrow" and then stick to your promise. Because if they whine and cry and you break---they'll just whine more next time knowing they can break you. [/quote]

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