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[quote=Anonymous]Why are some women like this? Very critical, intolerant of other women who make different personal choices (especially re: kids and relationships, but also trivial stuff like home decor or hairstyles).

I am singling out women not because I dislike women (I am one) but because I don’t know men like this. I know men who are jerks, but I don’t really know any who are critical in this way. And I feel like a man who was critical and judgmental of women the way some women are of each other would be rightfully called out on it for being rude and maybe even misogynist (because it’s holding women to impossible standards men never get held to).

My mom and sister are both like this. I think as an adult, I used to gravitate towards women like this because of my mom/sister, because even though it’s miserable, it was familiar. But once I realized how toxic it is, I really value people who are NOT like this. But it also makes me realize how common it is.

So my question is: why? What causes certain women to be so intensely critical of other women’s choices, even ones that don’t matter to anyone but the person making them? I also know women who are very critical of even emotional reactions (“I just didn’t like the way she reacted to the situation”), like there is nothing beyond the reach of judgment. Whyyyyy? It is so harmful to people and bad for relationships. Please, if you do this: why?[/quote]

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