Reply to I got POA of mother because brothers are Aholes!

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "I got POA of mother because brothers are Aholes!"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 80 yr old mother suffered a stroke and needed to be moved into an AL. I researched and toured facilities for the 3 weeks she was in hospital and rehab. Meanwhile my two brothers wanted to place her in a disgusting facility down the street from their homes. $2000 a month, shared rooms and bathrooms. My moms estate is over 2 million, also has monthly income of about 9k.  I found her a beautiful AL apt overlooking the bay 15mts from my brothers.  My mom fell again in her AL apt,  back in hospital/rehab. I was at a loss of how to keep her safe and even looked into nursing homes but her being of sound mind I just couldn’t.[b] She cried and wanted to go back to her AL apt because she had already made so many new friends. I told her she would need private caregivers with her there to prevent the falls that would eventually lead to her death. [/b] I had attorney meet us at her rehab to execute my POA per her wishes because my brothers were having “strokes” over the extra monthly costs now totaling 13k.  They both work in the family business my parents started and have access to all her bank accounts and assets. I don’t so I have to send the invoices to them to pay and it never fails I start getting snarky messages from them in group text.  “At this rate her money isn’t going to last long!”  They also send my mom texts that I’m overspending  on her cc insinuating that I’m buying things for myself which stresses my mom out. I use her cc for her monthly necessities. Fyi I’m married to a multi millionaire and use my money to buy her groceries and frivolous girly things like clothes, perfumes, jewelry just  to make her happy. I’m so sick of having to go thru them to pay her expenses I’m going to add my name on her accts and deny them access.  I know this is going to create a shitshow but what other options do I have? [/quote]

She is of sound mind. She has expressed her wishes to return to her AL where she has FRIENDS. You think a bay view is more important than FRIENDS? So she could "die" happy having a fall where she wants to be or maybe let's just say she lives a little longer at the place you have deemed worthy and she is lonely, but can stare out the window and have a room to herself. You have to respect her wishes unless she is mentally incompetent. You are being too controling. It is not your place to insert yourself and go against her expressed wishes.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics