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[quote=Anonymous]So my ASD kid is very fun-loving and silly… which worked with the younger set and he’s had a lot of friends (but always annoyed adults.) Now he’s nearly 12 and he’s driving everyone crazy. He’s OK in small doses but currently on a 4-night visit with family and he’s driving same age cousins, grandmother, CRAZY. He’s simultaneously yelling at me every day for how “short” every trip we take is. I just say well we need to work, well we have things to take care of at home — I don’t say “you annoy everyone by day 3.” But that’s the truth. In contrast my in laws spend like two whole weeks together multiple times a year… he’s very jealous.

Should I be breaking it to him? I’m always spending tons of energy trying to manage him around other people (like today I asked to please change plans to the thing HE wanted to do - they weren’t thrilled but everyone agreed - I was just trying to avoid a meltdown.)  He is generally oblivious to the fact that other people are catering to him. And he doesn’t read cues to know people are exasperated. I pulled him aside and pointed it out today and he was surprised and felt bad. Now multiple more times today he’s irritating everyone. His self awareness, when he has any, lasts for like a minute.

I’m mostly just ranting but I do have the major question of, how much do I tell him we’re trying to keep him from annoying the hell out of other people?? Would that help him regulate behavior or would it just make him feel MORE mad/sad?  I think the latter. He’s just not getting it. Yet the consequences of irritating everyone get bigger as he gets older and there’s less tolerance for it.

(In general, he’s chatty and keeps a constant commentary of silly antics and nonsense goofing… energizer bunny style)
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