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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH's should never be allowed to entirely abscond night duty unless they have a job where specifically being exhausted could be a physical danger (like truck driving or something). Keep them as involved in the labor as mom from day 1 and then when your kids are 2/3/4/5/6/7 etc they will still be pulling equal weight.[/quote] +1 Split the night into early and late and let him pick. But he still needs to do some nighttime stuff. When you go back to work do you imagine he will be fine starting to wake up again after getting used to sleeping through the cries? No, he will not. It will be completely established as belonging to [i]your[/i] pile of work, and you will suddenly be doing all the night work along with a job. And then the daytime childcare when you're both home will be split 50/50 if you're lucky. And it will all feel fair to him and breed resentment for you.[/quote]
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