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[quote=Anonymous]I was sort of your DH, and all I can say is that his behavior doesn't sound okay. In my case, taking it out on my spouse would have been more justified, because I did make very specific career sacrifices for him. But in the end, they were my decisions...and ones I also made for our family.

It sounds like your DH would benefit from a therapist to help him work through his emotions. People don't achieve their goals for all kinds of reasons, and it's not worth blowing up their family over. In my case, I came to realize that I didn't really want to be on the career trajectory I was on...and I changed quite a bit and have achieved things that are more fulfilling for me (though probably less impressive). Either way, I'm no longer wondering what else could have been.

In terms of what you can do, recognize that what he's experiencing is a kind of anticipatory loss of the life/career he thought he'd have. If he is a high achiever type, it's one that may get to the core of who he thinks he is and what he's worth. Basically, treat him kindly, but expect kindness in return too. And don't allow this to be your problem. He is the  only one who can find his happiness/contentment. At most you can help him see the way his current emotional state is harming his family as motivation for him to get help.[/quote]

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