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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many are terrible.

Unfortunately depending on where you live, teh state doesn't pay for full time care in home.  A few states do, but most don't.  Their only option is long term medicaid with a nursing home.

You an apply for hospice yourself, but they provide more support than actual physical care.

Sadly, there are not a lot of solutions beyond a nursing home if there is no money (or selling the house).[/quote]

They do pay for inpatient hospice. They assumed I was there to care for my aunt full-time  - never asked if I lived there, if I came out very short-term, if I lived in the area, etc. It was assumed until I set them straight. THEN they mentioned the benefits she's entitled to. They were perfectly willing to slog it all off on me when I have NO power of attorney, NO health care proxy, NO medical training, etc.[/quote]

You don't need any of those things.    Who is they?  Medicare pays for hospice but inpatient is only for very short term stays if the hospice center has an inpatient home and very few do.  Maybe you weren't clear.  Or, maybe you don't understand what hospice is.[/quote]

My aunt has end stage pancreatic cancer, maybe a few weeks left. She can hospice at home or in a facility, but only at home if someone is here as well as her. They assumed that was me. Ass-umed. No one asked. I could have been a neighbor. I could have been a niece who lived nearby. And I also could have been a niece who came here for another reason from 3000 miles away and was thrown into this situation. I have a VERY large family and am one of 32 nieces/nephews. No one is volunteering in shifts. I DO need those things if I want to protect MYSELF from a lawsuit, or God Forbid, some 'well meaning' social worker thinking I was her health care proxy and was supposed to be medicating her and wasn't and accuses me of elder abuse. I can't talk to her doctors so I have no FREAKING IDEA what she takes, how much and when. [/quote]

You don't sound like OP and sound very difficult.   If you are the one stepping up, of course they assume its you.  At that point, they just needed someone to handle tings.  [/quote]

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