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[quote=Anonymous]YES.

He doesn't always listen to what our DC is actually saying and often speaks out of his own issues or frustrations. I don't think he understands that DC takes in what DH said not merely as the opinion of another person but as an evaluation of their personhood by one of two people on the planet whose opinion they value most. Like I think he just doesn't get the gravity of that and therefore doesn't think that hard about it. So if he's annoyed with DC he'll say stuff like "You're so annoying" or "You ALWAYS [bad behavior DC only engages in sometimes but is really frustrating DH at the moment." I've talked to him about how DC is still forming their sense of self and if you constantly say "you are annoying, you are frustrating, you always escalate things, etc." then DC will internalize that and instead of doing it less, will come to believe that's just how they are and nothing they can do will help it. But it doesn't seem to sink in.

It's not all the time, just when DH gets particularly overwhelmed, but often enough that I worry about it.[/quote]

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