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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe it’s not the ballet vs soccer as much as it’s that she needs grandma (or someone) to help watch the kids more often? It sounds like she’s displacing her frustration over something else onto the ballet performance (seriously, why go to more than one of a performance??) - maybe she needs help getting her kids to their various activities?

My PPA looked different, but I often feel like I’m just barely keeping my head above water right now because there are just too many things going on. And having a 6month old is exhausting, so maybe she needs to hire help so that she’s not so overwhelmed?[/quote]

I do think she feels that way.  But I also think she feels a lot of pressure to have her kids do all the right activities.  Her kids have a schedule that would totally overwhelm me or my kids.  I think that need for "perfection" for them is part of the anxiety.

But she also gets a lot of family support with those things.  Her Dad is up there a lot to help drive kids around.  His mom is running "camp Grandma" over Christmas break, and her sister and I take the kids whenever we're asked.   Her DH is an active parent.  He's off work to pick up the kids after school and take them where they need to go, and handles dinner and bath and bedtime most night.  I guess that's what I mean when I feel like everyone's trying to help, and she's still clearly really overwhelmed.

The point about sleep is a good one.  She boasts that baby is a very good sleeper, but it's hard to know because she's very competitive.  Baby now takes a bottle, which might help, because her DH can get up at night, or a Grandparent can babysit.  But that is very recent, so maybe now she'll catch up a little.  [/quote]

Sounds more like a personality disorder than anxiety to me. Is this behavior new with the baby? [/quote]

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