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[quote=Anonymous]You wouldn’t have left unless you absolutely had to; I imagine you would’ve stayed if you could have (and you did for 20 years). It’s very normal to romanticize the past or remember/focus on primarily the good times after a breakup. And your marriage was a known, familiar entity and the future is unknown, which is scary. Divorce is a loss that you will need to grieve - even when the marriage was unhappy and abusive. Let yourself have these feelings, from happiness to sadness, and know that it’s all normal and okay. You are not on the other side yet. Give it time and perhaps seek out some therapy to help you along, and gently tease out the distorted thinking from reality. The abuse you endured was hard, even if you had grown accustomed to it to some extent. I imagine if you shared some of your stories we would collectively breathe a sigh of relief that you are OUT.[/quote]
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