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[quote=Anonymous]Stop making the excuse that keeping contact with her is about your kids having access to their grandmother. I’d never let my kids near someone who was abusive to me. Full stop. I think you’re using your kids as an excuse to stay connected with her because you still keep holding out hope that your mother will change. She won’t. Accept that. I also wonder what you’re getting out of staying engaged with her. Perhaps it’s the drama that is feeding something in you. The more dramatic all of this is, the more you can feel a purpose and wallow in being a victim. It’s a dynamic that needs to end. The only person who can change is you. So pick up yourself up and disengage. Stop calling her. Stop visiting. Let all calls go to voicemail. Cut off contact. Your kids will really be fine. It’s time to step up and take control of your life. If not today, then when? [/quote]
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