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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- about the stockings- they are actually just decorative.  So we won’t be “opening stockings,” I just think they look pretty and cozy.  We didn’t do them growing up, and I honestly dont really see the point of filling them if we have presents to open.  I’ll add, if this wasn’t obvious, I also didn’t get a stocking because I feel like this opens up the boundaries more for her to mix in my private adult life (if you couldn’t tell, I’m more and more feeling like a teenager living under a parent’s roof in my own house).  I forgot to add, last week, she showed up at my house unannounced (she has a key).    [/quote]
You can’t have it both ways. You’re fine with taking advantage of your mom to regular provide childcare but then bristle over her wanting to be included in your life. If you want to not feel like a teenager living under your parent’s roof then pay for professional childcare.[/quote]

I am trying.  I have never ever forced her to watch my child, ever- this is largely cultural (I’m Asian).  As mentioned, I tried telling her I would get the occasional babysitter and she completely berated me- if I got a babysitter full time, I know for a fact she would stop talking to me for a period of time.  So, this is tough to navigate and be in the middle.

I have gotten the occasional sitter in the past, but my mom was also in my home, just on a different floor, working, as she insisted on doing so.  She is very afraid of a sitter abusing my son.  I know I need to put my foot down but I don’t know how to talk to her without blowing up.[/quote]

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