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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sure there’s a million threads about similar issues, but here I go.  I’m divorced, have a 3 year old son, and my mom has been very involved in helping care for my son (daycare drop offs/pick ups, if he needs to be watched for whatever reason), but I’m starting to feel like she is becoming more and more controlling, and feels entitled to do so because she helps so much.

An example:

-She brought an ancient, huge, keurig machine and kept it on my counter bc I don’t have a coffee machine (I just use a small esprssso machine).  I told her I don’t want this bc I have a small kitchen and very limited counter space, but sometimes she “feels like a coffee” when she’s at my house.  Annoying, but I let it go.
-constantly telling me what my house should look like, get rid of this, when am I gonna do that, etc.  
-I told her I was planning on getting a babysitter for occasional girls nights out (and I do eventually want to start dating).  She got extremely upset and feels it is unsafe to get a sitter, even though I would ONLY go out after my son is asleep at 7.  The more I let her watch my son, the more emeshed in my personal life and as a 36 year old woman, is none of her business no matter how much one loves their parents.
-the latest one really angered me: I got personalized stockings for my son and I for our mantle.  She got very  upset that I did not get her one, and I think she even cried.  I told her kindly that this was my house.  She can get stockings and do whatever she wants with my son at her house (tho she does not have a chimney).  I can understand why she was hurt, but I am starting to REALLY feel like she wants to be parent #2, and that my son and I don’t have a family life of our OWN.  She feels very entitled to his whereabouts, what we do, because she helps so much.  But when I try to get help from outside, it is a full on rage.

I don’t know how else to talk to her- she also gets very angry, very easily, as generous as she can be.  Another  example, she asked how much my bonus was this year and I told her I was not going to tell her.  She got mad, and justified it with “I’m your mom, why can’t I ask you?!”

Help?[/quote]

This is hard...because honestly she IS doing a lot for you. I assume she watches your kid at your house- I think a coffee maker is warranted, right? Is your mom also on her own? I have to say I might be offended too if I am expecting to just be the three people for xmas and you didn't include me in the stockings. As for her opinions about your life- ignore, ignore. [/quote]

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