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[quote=Anonymous]When I met my now husband I was 29 and told him I wanted to start trying at 33. He wanted 35, I told him that was a dealbreaker and unreasonable because fertility declines, it’s harder on a woman’s body at that age and we wanted 2-3 kids. He relented but we started trying before we got married, that happened a year later. As luck would have it, it took us 2 years and IVF to get pregnant. Both of us are healthy, fit, fertile families with no known fertility issues and our tests confirmed we were above average in every category (high but not too high ovarian reserve, sperm count, etc). So at a minimum get a complete fertility check-up (AMH, FSH, TSH, HSG, etc.). I’ve known women who find out at 30 they have low ovarian reserve and have to move to IVF right away with low odds of success. He should also get his sperm tested. Personally, if I wanted kids, I’d freeze my eggs at your current age as an insurance policy. My friend who is 34 and single just did this - it’s expensive but there are more affordable options (CNY Fertility) or insurance might cover it. Hate to scare you but it’s a reality I’ve been living that I wish I had thought of before, pregnancy after 35 is much tougher for people, and 40 is so unrealistic for most women. Good luck! [/quote]

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