Reply to How long would you want to be in a relationship before having children?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "How long would you want to be in a relationship before having children?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean, he pulled an arbitrary number out of a hat that felt like a reasonable amount of time. Also, men are historically crap at this kind of math. I bet he’s felt that way since he was 29 and has simply failed to update it despite aging 5 years and continuing to date women his same age.

[b]I’d ignore his arbitrary number and instead talk about what you’d both like to do before kids. Like a lot of people want to travel a bit more before having kids because kids change travel (you can definitely travel with kids but it’s way different). Great! If you’re both on board for that, plan some trips and live it up. Getting those experiences in will naturally shorten his timeline because he will have less of that sense of “but I haven’t done X yet.” Snd if he does still feel that way, maybe he just doesn’t really want kids. He has to get real.[/b]

Another big one for people is wanting to not only buy a home but a certain sized home before having a kid. I personally think this is a fools errand because in many ways it’s smarter to have a kid when you are mentally ready, and then figure out housing when the kid is 1 or 2 and you have a better sense of how your family lives, what you value, and school priorities. We had a baby in a condo assuming we’d move, then discovered one child in a city apartment is pretty great for all involved and stayed. Very glad we didn’t try to guess at what we needed first only to wind up unhappy in the suburbs or in some 3000 sq ft townhouse we don’t actually like just because of preconceived notions about what kind of home you need for a kid.[/quote]

I wish I believed this, but he even said something along the lines of "I think you need like 4 years to really know someone." [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics