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[quote=Anonymous]I also have ADHD and it’s a challenge for me as well.  
Chunking out time with interim deadlines helps—eg, dinner prep needs to be done by 6:30, and if it’s not, you just put together what you can and eat.  Or lights out for kids at 8:30–so if you are ready by 8, you can have books until 8:30 but no books if not ready by &:30.  If not in bath by 7:45, no bath.  Etc.  For leaving for school, we used to have interim deadlines down to the minute—if we left for bus at 8:24, that meant bags in hand at &:23, shoes on at 8:22, downstairs by 8:20, breakfast done by 8, etc.  you can use timers for the longer chunks—so when you see the timer counting down to 8 am, food is shoveled into mouth.  If it’s 7:50 and there’s no breakfast ready, it’s a Cheerios day.

I use timers and alarms a ton.  You may have to scaffold this skill for him to start but the goal is for him eventually to chunk the time himself and set the timers himself.

I’ll say also that once you set you this system, don’t nag.  My husband nags and it drives me crazy.  I’ll be in the middle of a work email and he’ll ask if I’m going to do X.  I’ll say when I’m done with this bit of work.  He’ll keep asking and it makes the work take three times as long because every time he interrupts I have to remember where I was.  Once I’ve started something and am focused, I really want to get to a good stopping point, so I hate when something disturbs that unless it really is time critical.

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