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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. It’s not that he’s late, it’s that he ignores when stuff needs to happen in our family. So he’ll be in charge of getting our older child ready for school, which entails packing lunch, getting her dressed, and getting her bag packed. He’ll start the process, then decide to check work email while she finishes breakfast. Then 20 minutes will pass, and I will discover she’s still in her pajamas, her lunch is half packed, and we don’t know where her backpack even is. So then after having spent my time getting the younger kid ready for daycare, I have to scramble to help get her ready so we can get out the door somewhere in the vicinity of in time.

With dinner, he will be in charge of dinner but get sidetracked or make the dinner complicated, and it won’t be ready until 8. We’ll that’s not a thing with small kids— they have to be in bed by then. So I’ll wind up throwing a meal for them together AND getting them ready for bed while he finishes cooking.

And it’s the same with anything kid related. He knows generally what the schedule is. He is also well aware how long it takes to get kids this age to do things. And he knows that if we deviate too far from mealtimes, bed times, or departure times, there’s a ripple effect that makes everything else harder. And yet… there he’ll be, playing a video and saying to the kids he’ll be starting a bath for them in 5 minutes, and then 30 minutes will pass.

I give reminders all the time. I try to be gentle about them and be calm. But it’s hard because often I’m trying to do something at the same time. It’s hard to stay on him about this sort of thing when I’m in a meeting, or doing our taxes, or putting together snacks for PK because it’s our week.[/quote]

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