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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been dating a guy for 4 months and it's been amazing. We are both 42 years old and divorced. A few days ago, I told him that I would like to be in a committed relationship, and if he is not ready, that's okay, but I will need to move on because that's important to me. He said I might be a step ahead of him and that it might turn into a relationship if I could give him more time.

I said no and then ended contact. The next day he texted me to say he thought I was being too harsh. I didn't respond. Then yesterday, he asked if I could meet for coffee that afternoon. I said no. He asked if there was some other time and I thought I'd go to hear him out.

We are meeting this afternoon. Obviously I'm going to stick to what I said, but how do you think this is going to go? Any advice?[/quote]

Why such a hard line? The relationship is amazing per your statement. He wants to talk to you. What do you have to lose? Four months is not a lot of time. And...you need to move on to what?[/quote]

OP: I want to move on to creating an amazing relationship with someone who wants that too. Right now we are stuck in limbo, and we are having sex and I don't feel emotionally safe in this "situationship". Also, I would like to plan things in the future such as going away together. We both have a week off around the holidays and have discussed it and he's made no indication of doing anything together.[/quote]

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