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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a younger brother in his late 20s. He has never held a job. Our parents died when he was 20 and this seriously effected him. I've brought him to therapists and psychiatrists and he is on Prozac. He was diagnosed with depression and OCD.  He has never held a job or had a romantic relationship. He reads books (Classics) all day and acts like a hermit but did not finish college. He's also very moody like a hormonal teenager. Everything is an issue with him and he doesn't seem to want to get it together. He also occasionally has angry outbursts that usually result in something broken. I've replaced 2 doors (he kicked them in), 3 curtain rods, 2 iPhones (threw one out of the car window), a laptop, a window and a very expensive Tiffany glass vase. He's never hit me but has threatened to. I'm in my early 30s, educated and a business owner. I don't need this abusive crap in my life and if he was anyone else he would of been out on the streets already.  I've tried "talk therapy" with a psychotherapist with him and he literally refused to speak to them and wasted a few hundred dollars this way. I once had one come to the house for an intervention and he actually blocked his bedroom door with furniture. I have also offered sending him back to college or any trade school he wants to go to but he declined. I offered to allow him to work at my business but he literally sat in the parking lot in my car for close to 6 hours wasting gas and refused to come inside. I currently pay for all of his living expenses and want to cut him off. I'm at the point I can't stand him.  However before I leave him completely destitute and homeless does anyone have any other suggestions?[/quote]

How about a realistic time line for him?  Would it help to get a mediator to communicate this so he does not spin into a manipulative accusatory cycle?[/quote]
We've tried this and it usually goes 2 ways but ultimately ends up nowhere. The first way he says okay about getting a job then does nothing or gets very angry and screams which usually results in a broken item. I once did a joint therapy session in which he said okay to everything and signed a "contract" and upon getting in the car told me he would not be coming back to this therapist and that she could stick the paper somewhere. [/quote]

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