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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You must have some budget assumptions upon which you are saying that [b]to afford $60K/yr of tuition you need a HHI of $700K. [/b]Do you and your DW agree on your annual budget? Or does your DW think that there's somewhere in your current spending that you can cut back?

There are plenty of people who pay for private school and college with a HHI of $500K, so it's not a matter literally not having enough money...it's a matter of priorities. You and your DW probably aren't aligned on other areas of spending either...and that's what you need to address instead of jumping to, "You need to find a job in order to educate our kids the way you think makes sense."

Also, you should try to understand her reasons for wanting private over public. They might be good ones. Your personal experience doesn't apply, even if you live in the same school district you grew up in since kids are different and schools change.

FWIW, I went to private growing up and DH went to only publics. When we were first thinking about schools, he had the attitude that "public was good enough for me, so it's fine". We both did a lot of research, and we ended up exploring both publics and privates. Our kids ended up in public for now, but we may reconsider. Importantly, though, we are having discussions about these things on the merits of the decisions for our kids...not on just wanting our kids to have the same experiences we did.[/quote]

That’s not what OP is saying.[/quote]
Either way...there's a fundamental disagreement between them about how they should spend money. OP also seems to have an implicit preference for retiring early. Is the DW on board with these things? Or is the OP simply unwilling to spend this money and even to hear why his DW thinks it's important?[/quote]

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