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[quote=Anonymous]A neighbor with kids that align with mine moved next door. I have a lot going on and don’t often even host people in my home or play dates and she had asked me a few times on days that I just couldn’t because of kid extracurriculars. My fully vaccinated children have bad allergies and are often snotty/congested. My preschooler had that on day this week. So she calls me and asks if she can come over with a bottle of wine and the kids can play. I told her the little one had a cold but otherwise seemed ok. To be honest, I’m not a drop in my house unannounced person and my cleaner didn’t make it this week so already I’m feeling uncomfortable with the get together but straightened up, etc. Kids came over and we had a great time.

That evening my preschooler spiked a fever. I messaged her and let her know and said I hope your kids don’t get sick and I’m sorry, I didn’t realize it was more than allergies/mild cold. Within hours it had cleared. 
The next day she starts messaging me really early in the AM saying she had to keep her kid home from school. I keep apologizing and you can tell she’s upset and cold with me. It accelerates and she lets me know her kid has a climbing fever and is positive for the flu and the feeling was very much that she wants me to feel guilty. I keep saying sorry I had no idea, I thought it was just a cold etc, I will get my child tested to make sure. At this point my child is completely fine, no fever, in school. It was clear from her messages she felt that the source was my child. So I book my kids and they come back negative for covid, rsv, flu A, flu B, strep.. I asked the pediatrician to test for everything because we have a lot of holiday plans. I tell her that it may be a coincidence because my kids came back negative for everything but part of me is so annoyed at the whole interaction.

I feel like with kids and sickness, it’s best not to point fingers. All our kids are in school and activities and sickness just happens. Where would you go from here with this mom? [/quote]

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